You Need to Be Your Own Biggest Fan

inspiration mindsetchallenge Jan 22, 2019

We shouldn't care if people support us? You see quotes about surrounding yourself with people that support you and getting rid of others that don't. However, while this seems to make things easy in the short run, it still makes us rely on others to uplift us. Why should we expect people to root for us all the time when we can't even do that for ourselves? Let that sink in. I want us to get to that point where we always believe in ourselves and go after what we want no matter what ANYONE thinks. Then when people do support us, that's the icing on the cake.

This change doesn't happen overnight, and it doesn't mean that there aren't times where you should reach out for support. REACH OUT when you need it. What I'm talking about is training ourselves to get an INHERENT feeling within where we trust and believe in ourselves wholeheartedly.

It was painful when people didn't believe in the businesses I was creating, the lifestyle I lived, or the decisions I made. However, I worked on (and still work on) trusting my choices, feeling that I'll always be ok, and appreciating & believing in myself. I had a profound belief in my abilities and choices and stopped caring about what others think and whether they are there for me. I don't worry about it because I inspire and encourage myself.

Now there is less stress, conflict, and more relief. I still have friends around me that don't agree with my thoughts, my business, my lifestyle, my relationships, etc. Despite that, I still love them and enjoy their friendships because I firmly believe in myself. I have good conversations with them and debates about my life. Sometimes they make notable points, and other times I disagree, but then we let it go. It's easy because I know and they know that I trust myself and my decisions.

The funny thing is that when you don't need others to support you, the support will come flooding in.

Arathi Ramappa is a certified executive coach, certified spiritual life coach, speaker, and management consultant who helps individuals thrive in life and business. Using the concepts of emotional intelligence, self-compassion, and mindfulness, Arathi has helped clients start their own businesses, develop leadership skills, diminish conflict in relationships, implement positive behaviors, and increase confidence.

Arathi offers one-on-one coaching and emotional intelligence and conscious principles workshops to organizations. She created the EASE approach to help others Explore, Analyze, Strengthen, and Empower their thinking to identify and conquer obstacles to success and change their lives and businesses.

With twenty years of experience in business management coupled with certifications in coaching and emotional intelligence, Arathi’s background as a serial entrepreneur and a veteran in the start-up space has provided her with extensive cross-functional knowledge that she can apply to any situation or client. She has managed teams globally in places such as India, Japan, China, Germany, Canada, Taiwan, Eastern Europe, as well as the U.S., and has worked with a wide range of clients including from the financial, healthcare, cybersecurity, and fashion industries, among others.